kreyolcoco:

We need to rewrite the narrative of healing.

There is this idea that true healing is only accomplished through forgiveness and that’s bullshit.

You don’t need to forgive anyone that destroyed you or tried to destroy you in order to be able to move on or become “whole” again.

forgiveness is a gift that you choose to give.

It isn’t mandatory.

you Can heal by acknowledging what happened. By being kind to yourself, accepting that you can’t change the past while learning the warning signs for the future, by finding your voice, by living your life and more.

But telling someone that you forgive them for violating you, mistreating you, abusing you, and worse things go further into darkness we don’t need to list…

That isn’t the only path. So if you don’t take it, that doesn’t make you a weak, bad or incomplete person.