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godtie:

tbh if you ever have a friend who says “everybody leaves me” there’s a really high chance all those people had a good reason for leaving and you should look at the friend more critically and analyze whether or not they would actually be a positive impact in your life or not

ugh this post is going around again

i understand that this could be seen (and definitely sometimes is purposefully used) as a manipulative behavior

but also that fear of abandonment is a legitimate symptom of borderline personality disorder and that many people with bpd say things in this vein because we truly believe them (or because they actually are true and directly related to our disorder) and i don’t believe that makes me or anyone else expressing those fears or realities inherently manipulative

this post just definitely comes off to me as people shitting on my neurotype idk 

and also there is a reality that mentally ill people are going to be more isolated / ostracized by others and actually lose friends and relationships because of being mentally ill so idk fear of abandonment is a real and valid thing and does not necessarily mean that that person is being manipulative or is somehow more worthy of scrutiny than anyone else 

other people have said these same things / this is nothing new but this post is gross 

i love that expressing my depressive ideation at all gets me called an abuser

It’s not just boarderline either. People with anxiety disorders, especially social anxiety disorders and depression experience a distorting of emotional truths like this. “Everybody leaves me” may be false, but it *feels* true because of anxiety of that happening or lack of self esteem/understanding of why it wouldn’t.

That paired with this whole “neuroatypical people are typically isolated and ostracized… and who wants to hang out with someone who’s always worried, depressed, or lives in a series of extremes anyway, right?

Expressing your fears and insecurities, or even the truth of your life… this isn’t a bad thing and it doesn’t make you a bad person. This is not the sign of an abuser. The way it is said is a sign of abuse.

If a person says “Everybody leaves me” when you say you’re leaving, that’s abuse. If a person says “Everybody leaves me” when you’re not leaving at all… that’s insecurity/fear.

See the difference?

stopping in to say i’ve had friends toss me aside for my schizophrenia and basically stated it as so because “it made [them] uncomfortable.”

i also lost a lot of friends when i left an abusive relationship. in fact that lost me more friends that any. funny, that.

so yeeeeeah all sorts of not fucking cool.

getting disowned and basically losing everyone i had before when i came out as a trans girl, plus depression+social anxiety distortions that obviously didn’t even have to go very far after that point – yeah no that was not my fault that i felt that way for a while

God damn op’s post is awful.